What Do You Do When You Can’t Do It All?

It’s been almost two weeks since Jayden was born. And he’s still in the hospital. The day I got discharged was one of the hardest days of my life. Walking down to NICU I broke down and cried because I knew I would be going home without my baby. That pain was worse then the physical pain I was already in.

Before I went home, one of the nurses sat me down and shared some words of wisdom. “Take care of yourself” she said. “I know no one can stop you from coming up here everyday to see your baby, but do not come and sit for hours and hours. Go home and get some rest and heal. There is a reason why the airlines say to put on your own oxygen mask before you help anyone else”.

I heard her, but I didn’t really. I was told the same thing by my family and girlfriends, but I just couldn’t grasp it. It’s weird but I looked at a c-section as surgery for everyone else, but not for me. It wasn’t supposed to slow me down. As amazing as my husband is and he is perfectly capable of handling everything on his own, I don’t want him to. We are supposed to take care of each other. And we are supposed to take care of our son. Together.

However, I’m currently at home. I’m supposed to be getting some rest and healing, but I’m struggling. Struggling with unnecessary guilt because my baby is not here. And I feel helpless. Everyday I visit him and I feel more guilt because I have to leave him. Over and over again.

So what do you do when you can’t do it all? Or even anything about your circumstances?

In this short time of being a mom, I’ve learned so many lessons. First, I’m not in control. The nature of my son’s birth taught me that. Second, I can’t do it all. No one can. We all need help. We all need rest and time to recharge.

The reality is, Jayden is where he needs to be in order to get better. He’s in great hands and surrounded by people who want him to be healthy enough to get home. I realize that when he’s strong enough, he’ll be discharged and back with his family. Until then, all I can do is continue to visit him daily and prepare for his arrival. As well as take the advice I was given and make sure I am able to give him 100%.

So no, I can’t do it all, but I will do what I can.

8 thoughts on “What Do You Do When You Can’t Do It All?

  1. Jesus, this blessed me so. I experienced the same pain when I had to leave my baby in the hospital. The day I got released, a lady in the elevator said “Where’s the baby?” And I LOST IT. Completely. Even as she just turned 3, I’m still trying to tell myself to take care of YOURSELF. Keep holding on. He will be home SOON 😘

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  2. Sherron take care. Just believe that God got this. We want you healthy so that you will be able to take care of your little man. I am here for you when you need me. You have family and friends that are praying. We love you sweetie. E.Reed

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  3. Wow! Thanks for these inspiring words. I felt that way a few weeks ago when my sister had her stroke. I too had to return from Knoxville back to Atlanta to live my normal, daily life.. I was conflicted. But, she is in a great Rehabilation facility, and being taken care of. We can’t do it all…but, we can give it a damn good try. Love you my friend.

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  4. Ma’am, please rest and take care of yourself. Because you will be busy once he does come home. Please our family if you need anything. You know we love our “Miss Days.

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