Lately I’ve had two exs contact me in the same time frame. I’m not sure why. Maybe it’s the devil throwing out his distractions. Maybe it’s something in the water. Or maybe it’s because it’s cuffing season (shrugs shoulders). One ex wants to try again at our relationship. One wanted to apologize for hurting me and would like to try at a friendship. My thought is:
Why couldn’t you treat me right the first time?
Why is it that people have to use you, abuse you, break your heart and then move on to the next person to finally realize, “Hey, wait a minute, they were good to me”. Now all of a sudden, I’m the one that “got away”. No, I didn’t get away, you let me go.
I can’t sit here and say that I would never give an old relationship another opportunity (even though I would love to put up that front and say, hell no). I am wise enough to know that we all have a path to walk on and sometimes that path will lead us astray from those who are good for us. There is however, an appropriate way to do these things. A person can’t help but to respect a “I’m not ready for this” or “I need time” conversation versus cheating, lying, and “let me keep this up until they get sick of me” charade. We should know what we have when we have it. And if we aren’t ready for it, we should have the respect to let it go. If that person is for us, they will find their way back to us. Or they could find their way to someone else. Unfortunately, that’s the risk we have to take.
I’m not the smartest, the prettiest, or the greatest, but every ex has always tried to return in some form or fashion. I get sick of the Tyreses coming back singing, “Shame on me”. I just want to be good enough the first time. I’ve always believed, an ex is an ex for a reason, but depending on how things ended, it could be for a season as well. Too bad it has to take loving and losing to be appreciated.
Love. Hope. Faith.