Everyone’s love story is not a fairytale, and that’s ok. Mine isn’t, but it’s my story. Our story. It’s a story of heartbreak, but hope and triumph as well. How? Because I fought for it. Not just I alone, but the man that I love too.
I wish I could say we just met, fell in love, and simply got engaged, but that’s not how our story goes.
We did meet (through FB inbox) and fell in love, but we broke up. Then we got back together. Then broke up again. Don’t get me wrong, it wasn’t because either one of us were bad people, but it was bad timing.
Our first break up was all about him. The struggles of life can throw us for a loop and a relationship can be too much to handle. The second break up was all about me and my unwillingness to continue to wait on something I knew was meant to happen, me being his wife. Anyone who knows me, knows I have a vision and a plan for my life. One that includes being a wife and a mother. At the time, I wasn’t sure if he was ready to give me that, so I made the decision to move forward without him. It was the hardest thing I had to do, walk away from the someone I cared about so deeply, but I knew I had to love myself first. In doing that, most times, if not all, everything else falls in to place.
In loving myself, it allowed him to love me better.
This time, not only did we get back together, we fought to stay together. We made a plan to build a life together, something we both knew we wanted.
I share all this to say, relationships aren’t perfect. You both have to work at it. You can’t go by the models of others or what you see on social media because what you have is unique. You can’t always follow the advice of others, you have to follow your heart. We both said we would never go back to exes. Most times you hear that if it didn’t work out the first time, then why try it again? But if we hadn’t, we wouldn’t be here. Both being divorcees as well, if we thought that way, we wouldn’t be looking at marriage at all. We both may have missed out on our second, wait, our third chance at a love story. Our beautiful, messy, wonderful, complicated love story.