Today is Valentine’s Day.

Ladies, it’s that time of year where men are going to convince you that Valentine’s day doesn’t matter. That it’s a commercialized day. It was created by “the man” to destroy men’s pockets! Basically, this argument is to prepare you to get nothing or the bare minimum from them.

Listen. I get that one day shouldn’t be more important than another. I get that it’s a Monday. I understand that one day of gifts are not going to save a relationship, marriage, or courtship. However……

If you think the day is important, then the day is important. Period.

Just like Christmas or Thanksgiving or St. Patrick’s Day, if you want to celebrate it, than do that. Do not let anyone convince you that you shouldn’t. Find someone who is aligned with your beliefs or at least knows that it’s important to acknowledge.

No more down playing your desires because one man doesn’t want to give them to you. No more shifting your thoughts because a man doesn’t think they’re important. Also, don’t let a man totally skip the day like it doesn’t exist. Please see how dumb I was a few years ago here —–>

So recieve/ask for all the flowers. All the candy. All the cards. And if one won’t, another will. The right man will care about what you care about and will do whatever it takes to make you smile.

Happy Valentine’s Day❤

A Chair is Still a Chair.

Let’s see. Valentine’s Day last year, what was I doing? I was strutting around in a short black dress and four inch heels. Cooking dinner for a man I loved deeply. Instead of a buying a card, I wrote a heart felt letter expressing everything I felt for him. That day, he heard, read, saw, and felt my love for him. I put alot of effort into making him feel special (although I made sure he knew he was appreciated everyday).

Fast forward to this year. What will I be doing? I will probably be in my pajamas, eating pizza, and watching Netflix. Alone. What does that tell you? Alot.

Time changes things.
There are no guarantees.
We can’t predict our future.
Our plans can be interrupted or changed.
People come and go.
What a difference a year makes.
Forever doesn’t always last.
Shit happens.

I could go on and on with a bunch of cliché sayings, but I paint this scenario to say this; one day out of the year, this one day out of our lives, is not significant enough to impact our relationships or our worth.

For those in relationships, this one day will not ‘fix’ or ‘save’ anything. If you do not celebrate each other daily, then those flowers, teddy bears, and chocolates won’t make a difference.

For those who are single like myself, this one day doesn’t take away from your value. We put so much importance on certain days and relationship statuses that it causes us to think our lives aren’t great. You’re alone on this one day, but what about the other 364 days in the year when you’re among family, friends, and other loved ones? Don’t let this one day take away your worth during the rest.

A chair is still a chair.
A room is still a room.
A day is still a day.
And you are still you.

Love. Hope. Faith.